He says: Sex solves the problem.
She says: Solve the problem first or we’re not having sex.
Julie Johnson says: So it goes.
She should know. She’s a sex therapist. A good one. A very good one. A PhD in clinical psychology, Julie directs the Plymouth Center for Behavioral Health and has worked in sex counseling at Boston University’s School of Medicine. She’s a radio sex guru Sunday nights with her “Sex on the South Shore” show on WATD 95.9-FM in Marshfield. Lots of people call. Lots of people want advice. Lots of the stereotypes are true. We all want sex, she says, but women want the relationship to come first. Men want, well, the sex.
She started out after college by counseling cardiac patients. Doctors advised the patients about diet and exercise but offered no guidance about the unmentionable subject. You know, nookie. Julie knew her calling. She offered frank answers to frank questions and discovered lots of people had lots of issues with our carnal impulses.
Her practice thrives. She sees couples who haven’t had sex in years, women who’ve never been able to enjoy it, men who don’t know what women want, partners at the end of their rope who don’t know how to communicate. She says men and women learn different sex messages growing up. Women are supposed to enjoy it – but not too much – the monogamous relationship comes first. Men learn that much of their identity is based aro und a certain anatomical missile seeking heat
She believes sex should be mutually beneficial or it will be mutually destructive. She believes therapy should be short-term and to the point. It’s about changing behavior. It’s about communication. He says. She says. Julie says her own sex life is just like anyone else’s. It has its ups and downs, but she knows how to work on it. And this is one arena where the pays off comes out as fireworks.
Julie Johnson:
(508) 830-0012
